Here are some of the feelings that people who overeat or binge report: “hopeless,” “disgusted,” “repulsed,” “out of control,” “unsatisfied,” “sick.” If a friend left you feeling this way wouldn’t you begin to wonder if it was a healthy relationship?
Friendships are based on give and take. We provide something for someone and they provide something for us. Of course, this may not always be perfectly balanced but certainly the best friendships are reciprocal. What does food really give you besides extra weight? How does food help your goal of optimal weight loss surgery results?
Next time you feel like turning to food for some instant gratification or comfort, be a friend to yourself and figure out what it is you really need. Pick up the phone and call someone, write down your feelings in a journal, play with your pets or kids, or get some exercise. Attend a support group meeting on a regular basis. Whether you had the Realize band, LapBand, vertical sleeve gastrectomy, Roux-en-Y gastric bypass or the duodenal switch, weight loss surgery patients can all help each other by sharing inspirational stories of success and struggles. You’ll feel much better in the long run.
Tara Griffith, MFT
Laparoscopic Associates of San Francisco
The Surgical Weight Loss Center of Hawaii
*adapted from Michelle Fiordaliso, writer, psychotherapist and Clinical Director of Shrinkyourself.com